This post last updated on November 8th, 2021
The subject of marriage, same sex marriage, homosexuality, righteousness, and sin are no different than anything else I write about and must be held up and viewed through the lens of Scripture.
I believe the Bible to be the infallible, inerrant word of God from cover to cover. The vast majority of what I write on this blog are from the perspective of my Christian worldview and center on what I believe to be true about God, Scripture, life and the fallen world we live in.
Same sex marriage: the law of the land
The American Supreme Court appears to have made same sex marriage the law of the land, but let’s get one thing out of the way: neither the U.S. Constitution nor the court has ever defined marriage. The court does not have the authority to redefine marriage, and the court has most certainly overstepped it’s Constitutional authority in it’s attempt to do so.
Because marriage is not found in the Constitution, the 14th Amendment does not allow the Court the authority to redefine marriage. The 10th Amendment clearly states, “the powers not delegated to the United States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the States, are reserved to the States respectively, or to the people.”
Marriage is not mandated or protected by the U.S. Constitution. This issue clearly belongs in the hands and the votes of the people and the states.
The loud minority and a rogue court
The court may define and redefine tax codes and insurance laws and can debate civil unions all day long. However, marriage by definition is a covenant between a man and a woman. Period. There is a very loud minority that would like to say otherwise, but truth is truth, and truth will not change simply because the desires of a loud minority or the actions of a rogue court wish it to.
Tragically, the most unintended consequence of this ruling may actually fall on the Supreme Court itself in the long run because by overstepping it’s Constitutional authority, the Court is subverting it’s own validity. This will have huge implications and monumental consequences in future unrelated cases.
The imperfect court
The Supreme Court is not God, neither is the court infallible. In 1857 for example, the Supreme Court ruled in Dred Scott vs. Sandford that “African Americans, whether enslaved or free, could not be American citizens and therefore had no standing to sue in federal court, and that the federal government had no power to regulate slavery in the federal territories acquired after the creation of the United States.”
The Court once again showed it’s fallacy in 1896, when in Plessy vs. Ferguson, by an astonishing 7 to 1 vote, the United States Supreme Court “upheld the constitutionality of state laws requiring racial segregation in public facilities under the doctrine of “separate but equal“.
Clearly even the Supreme Court gets stuff dead wrong sometimes. But the courts are not the only ones at fault in this historical moment.
The church and our arrival at same sex marriage
The church has failed marriage. Especially over the last 50 years, the church at large has seriously dropped the ball on the institution of marriage. By permitting non-believers to enter the covenant relationship of marriage within the church without being a part of the church, we’ve left the door wide open.
We don’t baptize or administer the Sacrament of communion to non-believers, so why do we marry non-believers within the walls of the church?
Perhaps the root issue is separation of church and state, but historically in America the reality has been a non-separation. This gave the church a responsibility to perform marriages within the context of Scripture. Instead of thorough premarital counseling and ensuring God’s calling for a couple, the church became the place to hold massive weddings and in some cases those services became a stream of revenue.
Unrepentant divorce and remarriage is another area in which the church has utterly failed. We haven’t adhered to a Biblical standard on this subject. Of course, there are marriages that need to come to an end, but the church has swapped Biblical teaching on divorce for social comfort to avoid discipline and difficult conversations within the church.
Perhaps the church is afraid of turning people away, or of having hard conversations, or we are simply reluctant to lose numbers. Whatever the case, this is another category of marriage where the church has become Scripturally lazy.
The church’s desire to be socially acceptable will only lead to a lack of theological conviction, and that is called compromise.
Sin is sin
The Bible teaches that homosexuality is sin. It doesn’t matter how one tries to twist, reinterpret, or ignore the Bible on this matter. God’s word is very clear.
Society used to tell us it’s a lifestyle. Many lifestyle choices come attached with sin. The abuse of alcohol is a sinful lifestyle. Drug addiction is a sinful lifestyle that produces a boatload of sin.
Now we’re told that homosexuality isn’t so much a lifestyle as it is a non-choice.
However, sometime during the last 20 years, a social blinder has been pulled over the eyes of the church that has gained serious momentum in the last decade. The compromise society has forced onto many Christians is the inability to classify sin as sin.
When we allow certain sins to live in categories of their own, we’ve systematically created an acceptance of them. Accepting “sin categories” compromises Scripture and creates doctrine apart from God, separating ourselves from the true word of God and the teaching of Jesus Christ.
Despite the political correctness of the day, we need to classify sin as sin, and we need to do so in a compassionate, loving way. Pastor and author Warren Wiersbe says it this way, “Truth without love is brutality, and love without truth is hypocrisy.”
How should Christians respond to same sex marriage?
We should not respond in despair, anger, hopelessness or in defeat (1 Peter 2:1). This world and all that is in it are temporary things (Colossians 3:2).
We will be persecuted for our faith (John 15:18-19; 2 Timothy 3:12) but we must meet that with thanksgiving, prayer, and love (Matthew 5:10-12; 2 Corinthians 12:10).
Therefore we should:
- Pray for our country, our leaders, officials and for our people.
- Pray for churches, for church leaders and for Christians across America that we would be faithful to the teaching of God’s word.
- Speak the truth in a respectful, loving way.
- Stand firm in the truth of God’s word, not allowing man’s law to redefine God’s word.
- Don’t allow any particular sin a category of it’s own. This causes the entire church to stumble.
- Commit to model to the world around us and to teach by example the beauty of loving Biblical marriages.
- Love your neighbor, and pray without ceasing.
No matter what the world does, followers of Christ are to follow Christ. I know that it’s difficult, and I get that this is an absolutely divisive issue. But it doesn’t have to be. We must be people of mercy and grace and that is how we should respond to those who are without Jesus. And towards those who call themselves Christians, we need to uphold God’s word. We need to make disciples and teach them.
The Good News of Jesus is still the answer.